Sep 24

If I am going to begin my blog anywhere, it should be at the beginning. In the beginning God created. He created everything we see, and He created the laws that govern all we see. As long as you believe this, this blog can help you. If you aren’t sure of the truth of this, but desire to know the truth, whatever that may be, this blog can also help you. I strive fully to work in truth, no lies, no ambiguities, no manipulations…just truth. So the basis of all my thoughts on marriage and how to survive the first few years of change and the melding of two hearts into one will come completely from the word of God. I believe that it is the only absolute truth out today and the only way to know truth is to know God.

So, that said…Why Covenant? Covenant is defined as an agreement between two parties, typically a lifelong agreement. This is a term used to define agreements of all kinds, be it treaties, contracts, and a marriage agreement between a man and a woman. Both parties agree to the terms and they are bound to them for the duration of the contract, in terms of marriage, for life. This is the very reason vows are exchanged. A vow is a pledge, giving the other person your word that you will, to the very best of your ability, uphold the terms of the covenant. Covenant is incredibly important because when all else fails, when love fails, trust fails, faithfulness fails, joy fails, when we fail to live up to expectations, this is the rock that keeps us together. When we separate to figure things out, when we apply boundaries, when we fall, when we lose everything, when life changes and when we want to give up, covenant reminds us of the promise we made to one another, and we live to fight for our marriage another day.

Covenant is so important because it is the way God describes His marriage to His church. By church, I do not mean a building or Sunday service, I mean His people. Those who have chosen to live for God and let Jesus into their hearts have effectively done the same thing as choosing to live for your spouse and let them into the deepest parts of your heart. There is no closer relationship on earth than the one between a husband and wife, because it was a freely chosen relationship with someone you love deeply enough to be your truest self around. God created this relationship to give us a picture of our deepest, most intimate relationship with Him.

The best thing about this is, since God created it and He created the laws that govern a covenant relationship so complex, we have the tools to navigate it and enjoy the amazing benefits of a lifetime commitment with the greatest love we will ever know. It does not always mean it will be easy, in fact, some of the greatest rewards come at a high price. But with God all things are possible, even overcoming our greatest challenges and fears. So, I’ll leave you with this. Christ’s covenant with us can be our war cry for our marriages. Romans 8:37-39 says: “No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us. For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.” (NIV) And if this is so, and covenant marriage is a reflection of this relationship with God, then I am convinced that no money problem, no sex problem, no communication problem, no past hurts, no ruthless friends, no crazy in-laws, no temptations or addictions, nothing is going to separate me from my husband and the love we share between us. This is true of any marriage rooted in Christ. When you are ready to give up….go back to the beginning. Covenant. It’s always a good place to start. God Bless!