Mar 08

Hello my friends! Recently I have had a question nagging my heart and I needed to get clarity from God on it. I asked God, “Why are marriages falling apart so easily?” He responded to me clearly with Proverbs 29:18 (KJV), “Where there is no vision, the people perish, but he that keeps the law, happy is he.” Vision is that important huh? This scripture brought me back to the beginning of my marriage. I remember when I first got married I could see us clearly 10 years down the road. We were in this big, lovely house with a front porch swing. Evan was mowing the lawn and our kids were playing and laughing in the freshly cut grass. Evan and I caught each other’s eye and winked. It wasn’t so much the picture of this scene that I focused on, it was the way I felt. In my vision, we were a happy family, at peace with each other, and in my mind I knew we had something very, very special. Simple vision, right? What I didn’t realize when I dreamed it up was how far we were from it, and what it would take to get there.

Now, I could have dismissed that vision as just a dream, a far fetched one at that, but it kept coming up. Whenever I would think about what I wanted my family and my marriage to look like, this was it. If I had focused on what my situation looked like at the time I would have given up, many times over. I almost did several times. Our marriage was ugly, and messy, and I did not like it at all. I would wonder how we were ever going to go from that horrible place in our marriage to one that looked like my vision.

I look back now and we are almost there. We are almost to that exact vision that I had pictured in my mind. How far God has brought us!! I have recently been reminded of God’s ways being higher than our ways.  His precepts and principles are always true. His law will forever govern our way of life, because God created us to live within the principles of that law. If God can take emptiness and void and chaos and create the world and the law that governs everything in it, that He can bring order to the chaos of our marriages.

So in going back to our verse, what does vision have to do with the law? How are these two concepts related? When God gives us a vision, any vision, but for this blog specifically a vision for our marriage, the way that he intends on fulfilling it is through his principles, his law. Those who keep the law, those who uphold it and study it and put it into practice will see their vision fulfilled!! Whereby they are happy. True happiness comes when we are living out that which we were created to do and when we are living in the fullness of our being. Without vision, all we can see is our brokenness, but in the light of his law and truth, we can see our destiny. It is this vision that keeps us directed. This will keep us focused on God, for He is the one that gets us from A to B. Vision gives us hope and is the substance of our faith.

Because God created the concept of covenant, he also created the laws and principles that govern covenant. If we take those laws and apply them to our marriages, we will surely overcome the chaos and obstacles and live rightly with each other and before our God. This is always true for every marriage ordained by God.  Please understand that this takes time, for there are things God does in our hearts to bring chaos into order.

So, in light of this I challenge you to ask God to give you a vision for your marriage. Many of you probably already have one in mind. Ask God to reveal the purpose of your marriage. Ask Him to show you what it should look like. Take hold of this vision, for it will be your focus when things don’t look as they should. This will be the substance of your faith. God has great plans for your marriage. His is able to bring beauty from ashes!

“Not that I have already obtained all this, or have already been made perfect, but I press on to take hold of that for which Christ Jesus took hold of me. Brothers, I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it. But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus.” (Philippians 3:12-14)

I’d love to hear the visions God put’s on your hearts. I would love to pray in agreement with you and God to see the fulfillment of the plans, and purposes, God has for you and your family.

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